It’s been a long while since I wrote for this blog, but not because my heart wasn’t in it. I’ve been living life in ways that I never thought I’d be living it in the last long while. I buried a dear friend of the 4-legged kind who was very important to me much like a child is to its parents; I attempted to be a parent to a granddaughter who was troubled beyond repair with a step-grandfather who didn’t like kids; while in remission from cancer 15 years ago, the chemo port was left in my chest and became fractured causing me a great deal of pain and time in bed; and last but not least – I left a relationship of 13 years too long from said step-grandfather person and fled from Ohio to the Big Sky Country of Montana. Whew! As usual, I have learned a great deal in the last year or two. Isn’t that the point of this earthly existence? Do. Learn. Grow. Rinse. Repeat. I think so.
If you haven’t realized your purpose, your worth, it’s time, don’t you think? Or if you don’t believe in such things it could be time you give this concept your worthy attention and consider it. We only get one chance to get it right, so they say. So it must be pretty important. We’ll get into that more later.
There have been times in the last few years where I truly wanted to just give up. Those seemingly impossible curve balls that get thrown at us, you know. I prayed for a big truck to hit me going down the driveway to get the mail. Truck aren’t allowed on that road. I asked the Lord for a horrid disease to overcome my body and take me quick. I was reminded that such a thing all ready happened 15 years ago…and I beat it. Okay. How about an earthquake? Nope. I’d have to move to California for that or China or India. No thanks. I’m too chicken to do anything to myself. A friend once told me, “Jill if you tried to kill yourself, it wouldn’t work. You’d screw it up somehow and become a quadriplegic or something worse and you’d live like that til you were 100.” I knew she was right.
So I gathered myself up and reminded me that I’d been through much worse before and survived. I can do it again. And again. The Lord, in all His wisdom and love, is always there to pick us up from the mud puddles we get ourselves into. He knows our heart and our best intentions. We are His children, and kids get into trouble. As our Heavenly Parent, He is there to provide the way out. And hopefully we learn from our mistakes so that next time we see the ear marks and have learned to say no or walk away.
For me, He put an old, dear friendship within my reach after decades of no contact. This special friend who never forgot me happened to ask me on Facebook how I was doing. Having been in a state of feeling worthless and forgotten, depressed and awful, I told her what was going on. She said she happened to have a free airline ticket she wouldn’t use and would gladly give it to me to go to her house and stay. “Jill, have you forgotten who you are – a beautiful daughter of God? You can’t stay there any longer!” The next day, I was on a flight from Ohio to Montana, which meant freedom from an emotionally abusive relationship that began to turn physical due to alcoholism and drug use by the man, who 13 years ago, I felt was my soul mate. People change and there are never any guarantees. A very hard lesson for me. I left a brand new house that I’d worked hard for, three precious dogs that were like my children, my grandchildren, children, and everything I owned except a garbage bag with a few outfits in it. That’s all I had time for before the police showed up.
After a time of grieving my losses, forgiving myself and him, making new friends, and a lot of soul searching I am on a good road again. I’m taking care to make sure this road is a safe path, a good way for me to travel now. I’m looking forward to continuing to learn about myself and what the Lord wants me to do. I’m digging deep into the person who is Jill, shoveling out the parts I don’t like, and planting seeds of happiness that will grow into thriving plants that represent the best of me and what I have to give. And my Father-in-Heaven is at the core of this exciting new self discovery because He knows me and loves me like no one else. With Him at the helm, I can’t lose.
I take care of a beautiful elderly woman full time who is wise, generous, and kind. I live in a lovely apartment on the second level of her home on the shores of Flathead Lake. I’ve gone back to church where my roots have always been planted, but became loosened and dry for awhile. I’m learning how much the Lord really loves me as His daughter. And I’m realizing how vital it is to know that. If we don’t believe in ourselves as worthy, capable, deserving women of God, we are shortchanging ourselves, our potential, and our very lives. The lack of it will affect our children and everyone to whom we meet and grow close to.
We will talk more about this fragile thing called self worth or self esteem; why we don’t have it and how to get it. It’s really important but seems to escape most of us women. And we dearly pay the price. What are your thoughts? I’d love to hear.
Do. Learn. Grow. Rinse. Repeat.
Your Sister,
Jill